Author: DwightClough

Do you have an elevator speech?

Do you have an elevator speech? Something that sums up who you are and what you do? If so, I’d love to hear it or read it.

I’ve been working on one. This is what I have so far:

Ready for a better life? Maybe it’s time to fight back. Or maybe it’s time to heal. Or maybe it’s just time to take that next step.

What if you could meet with God and go away from those meetings stronger, healthier, happier? I show you how to do that. I’m an online teacher; through my courses and subscription you will learn how to understand and experience Christian transformation.

My students and subscribers don’t want fake religion; they want the real thing. They’re tired of try hard. They have the guts to be honest with themselves and honest with God.

When life’s biggest bullies gang up on you, I help you find a different level of Christian faith giving you the breakthrough you need.

You’ll find the resources I offer at DwightClough.com.

What do you think? Any suggestions? Any thoughts on elevator speeches?

Have a super day!

Dwight

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Before and After

Do you ever pause to think about where God has taken you? I was working on some resources for my Inner Wealth subscribers, and I came up with this list:

BEFORE: I was obsessed thinking about people who had hurt me.
NOW: I almost never think about people who have hurt me.

BEFORE: I could never relax, day or night.
NOW: I’m deeply at peace.

BEFORE: I was easily offended and often angry.
NOW: Most of the things that once bothered just don’t bother me anymore.

BEFORE: God seemed disapproving and aloof.
NOW: God likes me. He likes hanging out with me. Wow!

BEFORE: Sin, confess, sin, confess, sin, confess, sin…
NOW: Very little desire to sin—as a rule.

BEFORE: I needed my wife to change in order for me to be happy.
NOW: I’m deeply grateful for my wife. I like her. If she never changes, I’m okay with that.

How about you? What’s your list? What has God done for you?

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Who has the power to make you feel bad?

If someone is rude and condescending to you, where does that leave you?

Or if you’ve been pushed out of something you care about by someone who thinks life is just another episode of Survivor, what happens inside you?

Who has the power to make you feel bad?

When I was growing up, my mother said I needed to learn to be thick skinned. But somehow, I never learned. Sure, I went through a time when I tried to pretend that I didn’t care what others thought of me, but that didn’t work very well.

People still have the power to hurt me.

But a funny thing happened along the way. I learned that I have some options. I have some power over that hurt. I don’t need to wait for Mr. or Ms. Mean Person to come back to me and apologize. There’s something I can do instead.

But it does require that I stop pretending. It does require that I face up to those hurt feelings inside. And it does require that I take those hurt feelings to Someone who has a lot more power than I do.

I’ve done that now hundreds of times with all different kinds of hurts. And yet the process still amazes me—how I can go from anguish one moment to laughing out loud the next, how I can go from stressed out to not-a-ripple-on-the-pond perfect peace.

I’ve helped others do this, and seen the same kind of quiet miracles replicated in their lives.

It has been my life’s mission to help others discover this journey. I’ve written books, taught courses, published websites, and generally tried to grab people by the ear and say, “Stop and listen! This could change your life.”

Today, I launched a new resource to help people experience this kind of transformation. I call it Inner Wealth. It’s a subscription that gives you access to videos and other teaching that explain what it means to walk with God in this way.

I toss it out there to you, in case you want to check it out.
https://bit.ly/Godslove4u

Dwight

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Why does God require the impossible?

In case you haven’t noticed, God regularly not only requests but also demands that we perform the impossible.

Here’s a partial list:

  • We are to love our enemies. (Matthew 5:44) I can’t do that. Can you do that?
  • We are to forgive those who wrong us. (Matthew 6:14-15)
  • We are prohibited from worrying, even when we don’t know where our next meal is coming from. (Matthew 6:25+)
  • We are to get happy when we’re persecuted. (Matthew 5:12)
  • We are to get happy when everything goes wrong. (James 1:2+, Romans 5:3+)
  • We are to repay evil with blessing. (1 Peter 3:9+)
  • We are not to fear the threats of evil people. (1 Peter 3:14)

Jesus tops it off by saying we are to be perfect even as God is perfect. (Matthew 5:48)

I can’t do any of that. I’m gonna guess you can’t either.

So what gives? Is God out of touch? Is Jesus delusional? I don’t think so.

For several weeks I’ve been putting together a subscription package called Inner Wealth which I plan to launch Monday, December 3, 2018, and, in connection with that, I’ve been thinking through topics like this.

Why does God demand the impossible? I think it’s an act of kindness on His part. He’s hoping for a certain kind of response.

For many years my answer to God was, “I’m trying really hard, God. But I guess I’ll try even harder.”

Wrong answer. You don’t accomplish the impossible by trying harder. In recent years I’ve learned that a different response is needed.

It all starts with honesty. When there’s someone I can’t love, I gotta be honest with myself and honest with God. I tell Him how that person makes me feel, and what goes on inside when I’m around that person. I tell Him not to justify myself, not to make excuses, but instead to acknowledge the limitations of me without God. Then I invite Him in to do what only He can do.

I’m thinking right now about a dramatic moment in my life when someone deeply embarrassed me in front of 300 people. I was mortified. But there, with 300 pairs of eyes looking at me, I looked heavenward in my helplessness. Then this amazing thing happened. God gave me a love and respect for this person that I didn’t know I could have. My whole outlook changed. I saw her through God’s eyes. Wow!

So, no, I can’t do any of these things any more than you can—I can’t do them any more than an infant can assemble a car engine.

And that’s okay. Because Jesus stands ready to rewrite what’s possible in our lives if only—in that moment—we’ll invite Him in.

Be encouraged!

Dwight

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Could they both be right?

In Acts 15:36-41, we read about an argument. Two leaders, two different ideas. They can’t agree; they go their separate ways. Call it the first church split. Paul and Barnabas had been partners. Now they’re ready to return to their mission field and check on the churches they started. Barnabas wants to bring John Mark along. Paul says, “No way. He’s a quitter; he will slow us down.”

They can’t agree. So they split up.

Here’s my question: Which one was right?

You could argue that Paul was right. After this incident, Barnabas drops off the radar, and the rest of the book of Acts is all centered around Paul. Paul writes much of the New Testament.

But you could argue that Barnabas was right. By investing in someone who got off to a bad start, we end up with John Mark, author of the first Gospel written which became an important source for both Matthew and Luke. Even Paul, at the end of his life, admits that he needs Mark (2 Timothy 4:11).

Could they both be right?

I think maybe yes they could. And I wonder in this day of conflict, debate, controversy, and polarization, if maybe what we’re seeing is not so much “I’m right, and you’re wrong,” but more “I’m right, and you’re right; we’re just right in two different ways.”

I don’t know. It’s just a thought. What do you think?

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How to Forgive course now available!

I am so excited to announce that the How to Forgive online course is now live! You’ll find it here…

How to forgive
Forgiving is hard, isn’t it? No, it isn’t. It’s impossible. Unless you know how.

I’m very excited about this course. I think it will help many people, and I hope you’ll join me in spreading the word. You can give others this link: bit.ly/forgive2

What to expect in this course

4 Reasons Why We Struggle to Forgive … and What You Can Do About It (Lesson #1)
Jesus commands us to forgive. Medical science confirms forgiving others makes us healthier and stronger. But it is so hard to do. Especially when we believe these lies about what happens when we forgive.

Why forgiving others is one of the best things you can do for yourself (Lesson #2)
While it may seem like forgiving others diminishes you, the exact opposite is true. Here’s how forgiving others makes you stronger and healthier both emotionally and spiritually.

Why forgiving others does NOT open the door to abuse (Lesson #3)
Forgiving others does NOT turn you into a doormat. It does NOT invite or excuse abuse. Explore the important differences between forgiving and reconciliation.

Anger shows up as a friend, stays as an enemy (Lesson #4)
Yes, anger does have its place. But, like dynamite in the wrong hands, it can quickly become dangerous. In this lesson, we explore how and why anger is different than most negative emotions, and why it’s so important to know what to do with our anger.

Forgive with your eyes wide open: Why forgiveness has nothing to do with denial (Lesson #5)
“It wasn’t that bad.” “I’m not really that angry.” Sometimes what may sound pious and godly actually gets in the way of forgiving from our hearts.

Why blanket forgiveness seldom works (Lesson #6)
Can you forgive Uncle George in ten minutes if he abused you for ten years? Probably not. But here’s what you can do instead.

Understanding how your mind works reveals why we need to change our approach to forgiving others (Lesson #7)
The vast majority of people don’t understand this simple concept, but once it makes sense, then you can easily see why most approaches to forgiving others simply will not work. Thankfully, God has a much better alternative for us.

The key to moving forward is resolving the past (Lesson #8)
You can try to forget the past, but the past doesn’t forget you—until you deal with it.

The trade-up approach to forgiving others (Lesson #9)
This step-by-step approach puts together everything we’ve learned, and leverages the supernatural power of God to change our hearts.

The under-anger approach to forgiving others (Lesson #10)
Here’s an alternative approach that works better for some people or some situations. Again, we find a way to access God’s grace, so he can do the supernatural work in our lives that only He can do.

Is there a course fee? Here’s how this course works. You take the first six lessons for free. At that point you decide if this is bringing value to you. I’ll suggest a course fee at that point. You are free to pay more or less depending on your situation. If you’re truly destitute, pay nothing. It’s all okay. There’s no pressure. Nobody’s judging you. Nobody’s looking over your shoulder to see what you’re going to do. I don’t want money to prevent you from getting the benefit from this course.


In other news, I haven’t forgotten about The Gift of Your Influence. I plan to reshoot most of those videos and shoot the videos I haven’t completed yet and offer it as an online course hopefully sometime in the next few weeks. I don’t think I’ll continue using the blog and the blog email for that course as I want to free up the blog for other purposes.

Many thanks and many blessings!

Dwight

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Some thoughts on respect

What inspires you to respect someone?

Respect sets your level of influence in someone else’s life. More on the video …

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In the video I push back against some very common advice. I see it a different way. But what about you? What are your thoughts?

 

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